Thursday, May 30, 2019

The Power of Desire*


I look at an image of your face. 
You have eyes that cannot see (me) 
And ears that cannot hear (me). 
I have worshiped idols. 

But…your verboten voice, to me, 
Was like the morning dew, 
A sign of blessing to the world. 
Awakening inner vitality, only to disappear. 

The tenor of your voice, like a hint, 
Suggestive of love and beauty, 
Having done that work, 
Vanished from recognition. 

Say the Rabbis: 
“‘Yours is the dew of your youth’: 
Your youthful sins acted like dew-- 
They roused you to search for God.” 1

Your voice (& eyes & ears) awakened in me 
The power of desire. 
Through promise and frustration, 
They roused me to search for God. 

“I will be as dew to Israel,” says the Lord
A hint, like perfume;
A word or two is enough; 
A whiff of perfume that lingers. 

I ask in mourning, dew on my cheeks: 
“Would you say I bear guilt all these years 
For having worshipped idols?” 3
God reassured Abraham: 

“Yours is the dew of your youth” (Ps. 110:3). 

Even as dew evaporates, 
So our sins may evaporate, 
As was for Abraham and his many sons, 
(O daughters!) 

Do not rejoice over me. 
Do not rejoice, my enemy! 4
Though I’ve fallen in darkness, 
I will rise again. 

Say the Rabbis: “If I had not fallen 
I should not have risen up; 
If I had not sat in darkness, 
God would not be my light.” 5


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1. 165, The Murmuring Deep
2. Hosea 14:6
3. Bereshit Rabbah 39:9
4. Micah 7:8
5. Yalkut Tehillim 628



* Title: The Power of Desire "The only thing to be done with sinful behavior is to stop it, to repent for it, and never to return to it. As for the power of desire that leads to the sin, it has significantly more positive possibilities" (Chabad.org).

Monday, May 13, 2019

Bull in a China Shop

photo by matthais jordache on unsplash

"Delicious"

I can’t cook a meal without messing it up.

I burn.
I overpour.
I leave out something essential.

I don’t always cook for myself. Sometimes, I create meals for others. My ambition for perfection and over-correcting for mistakes inevitably leaves me asking for forgiveness before we even sit down to eat. But, I can’t leave it at one apology. After each bite, I look for signs and feedback. Anxiously, I interpret every response:

Slow chewing.
A napkin to the lips.
A cough.

Would I overdo it if I asked what they really think? It’s a disaster!...Did I say that out loud? No, no, it’s fine, they say. Really, it’s delicious.

I can’t cook a meal without messing it up. But, we have to eat. And, sometimes, I create meals for others for the soul purpose...excuse me, I mean, the sole purpose of hearing that precious word, “Delicious.”
***
photo from richard gatley on upsplash

"Beautiful"

Sometimes, when there is a very special or important event, I wear makeup. Wearing makeup is like painting the image in your mind onto a canvas. It’s an art form. To perfectly apply the various powders, pencils, and paints should result in an effortless looking beauty. You don’t want people to notice the makeup, but, rather, you want them to see the elegant you more clearly. You want your natural beauty to shine through. It is an art form of tenderness and care.

When I have a very important event I get nervous and I’m usually running late. First, I scrub my face clean. I sit down in front of the mirror. I tell myself, looking straight in the eye, perfection is the goal.

Inevitably, I overdo the powder. So, I put lotion over it and my face looks shiny, almost oily. I add more powder and it creates a thick skin-colored layered goo on my face. I wipe it hard. My skin becomes blotchy and raw. Next, the blush, intended to give me a youthful glow and ruddy cheeked vibrance, sticks to the caked powder and ends up as a dark smear of rose too high on my cheekbones. Often, my eyeshadow turns into a bruised look, and the eyeliner, so flawlessly drawn on one eye, is smeared and uneven on the other. I don’t even try the lipliner. I assume you can’t go wrong with lipgloss. You can.

I’m usually running late, so I give up and go. Would it be socially awkward to ask people to forgive the state of your face at a special event? I make up for my failures in the art form of beauty application by being as kind and agreeable as I can. I’m always hoping people will look past my failures with cover-up and concealer. I try to hide, afraid they will see my nakedness. At these special events, I find myself listening, straining my ears in hopes of hearing someone, anyone, say, “Beautiful.”
***

photo by stephane yaich on unsplash

Broken Glass Everywhere

I broke my friend’s mother’s inherited vase. It was a beautiful blue porcelain painted with yellow flowers. Daffodils, my favorite. At the time, I was a little out of my mind. Yes, I had had a few glasses of wine. But, I was also feeling restless, needy, and wanting so badly to create a good impression.

We were dancing in the living room. It was late. His mother was out of town. He asked if he could kiss me. This startled me because we were good friends. I stumbled backwards and crashed into his mother’s curio cabinet. A precious vase, given to her by his late grandmother, suddenly crashed to the floor.

Frantically, I knelt down to clean it up. I used my hands and cut myself. The blood stained the cream colored carpet. I grabbed the first thing I could find to wash the stain and ended up rubbing the blood with beer. He told me that he would take care of it.

"You should go home," he said.

I left in a daze. I couldn’t get the vase out of my mind. Surely, there was some way I could fix it. Years went by. He never called. I was embarrassed. I couldn’t stop thinking about that broken vase and those shattered pieces of porcelain--yellow narcissus flowers painted over a wash of baby blue.

One day, I drove past his mother’s house again. I remembered his bedroom window. I thought maybe if I used these small pebbles I could throw them at his window to get his attention. If he would only turn back those heavy curtains and open his window, I could tell him I was sorry.

I stood there in the middle of the day, with the sun shining down. I wondered what he would think if he knew I was here, at his mother’s house again,

...and I just broke the second story bedroom window.

Friday, April 19, 2019

Black Trans Woman is GOD


Your feminine presence in the room (Shekhinah)
Hovers over the mind of each soul
Accompanied by our fears,
Also by my reverence and awe.

For the many, you are a mythical creature
Who, in the contradiction of
Your living, breathing presence,
The mob seeks to kill.

You wear a garment of great earthly beauty.
We claim to have your hidden places,
Your covered parts, Your Mystery,
Within our callused hands.

Like a verse of holy scripture used as a knife,
We cut your wholeness into pieces.

We consume the male and female broken like bread,
Along with your blood in this cup.

Blood is poured out for the many
For the forgiveness of sins. 

--ENOUGH!--
[El Shaddai] is our G-d.
[El Shaddai] is one.

A Holy Name: “G-d Almighty,”
“Big Breasted One.” “All Sufficient One.”
Assigned male at birth
In the beginning with the word.

You dwell in thick darkness, in your skin
Arafel, dark cloud, of the Hebrew sort, 1 Kings 8.
Your name, to me, means “innocent” or “lamb”
And when I touched your hand, it was soft.

Lamb, You are Sufficient.
You are God-With-Us.
The Incarnation.
The Black Trans Woman is God



***
[Note: This poem was inspired by an activist I met some years ago. I’m also taking a Hebrew class learning letters, the root meaning of words, and their gendered forms. The Shekhinah (the presence of God in the world) and El Shaddai are Hebrew words for God in the feminine form.]

Thursday, December 13, 2018

Divine Being and Mythical Creatures

Part 1


I once read a short story about a content fisherman. One day, he saw a mermaid and she disappeared. He became obsessed with finding her again and deteriorated in the process--his longing for her destroying him. Then I wrote a short story. This story is also about a seeker, much like one searching for a mermaid or the mythical city Atlantis. But this story is of one who lives far from the sea...

Our seeker began in the desert village where she had grown up. It was a dry and barren land where people drank whiskey while dancing in the light of campfires to the music of stringed instruments and goatskin drums. Smoke could often be seen rising up along with a word or two of spoken wisdom.

She heard a legend of a utopian place hidden far inland. This place was often talked about among her older friends, and exists in the cloud covered climax of an unknown mountain. There, legend tells, a waterfall pours into a pristine lake guarded by two trees and is surrounded by a grassy field.

“The map is written on the body,” her friend alluded as she gave the map which had passed this way by friend to friend as long as anyone could remember.

She brought a book for reading and the map to be her guide. It would be too hot to start in the middle of the day. She began at dusk. Just as she came to the fence, the meeting place, she looked out across the desert in the direction her map would take her. Past the prickly pairs and the saguaro cacti, she saw a starling image on the horizon. A black stallion. Its galloping silhouette dark against the expanse of the setting sun.

In front of her, there at the fence, stood a young donkey tied with a rope. She introduced herself by showing her hands. Its nose was soft. It was alert to her every move, but seemed trusting. From her hyper-religious background, she remembered a biblical moment when He came into Jerusalem on a young donkey and all the people shouted “Hosanna.” What a different story she had to tell.

She secured her burden on it’s back. They began their journey.

They moved through the desert under the stars for a long time that first night. She eventually found a place to sleep. She had always day-dreamed of riding a horse through the open desert, wind in her hair, barebacked, and galloping at full speed. She thought it would feel like flying. That night, she dreamt fitfully.

The first day, the map brought her to the long flowing grasses of the nearest plains. The grass moved in the wind looking like waves in the ocean.

Eventually, she came to the place of two crystal clear ponds, side by side. They reflected a dark gray sky above surrounded by brighter, white clouds. She rested there for a while. She prayed. It was as if she could dive into the very soul of humanity as she gazed into these strange ponds. They mirrored back a certain truth from her downcast eyes. She felt strangely alive in them.

They continued on their journey over a small hill where the wind blew like the breath of God and smelled of recent rain and creosote bush.

The ground lifted and gave way into a canyon surrounded by rocky terrain. The white rocks bleached from the sun were piled almost on top of each other. There was a reddish brown swamp at the bottom of the canyon. It was hard to see how deep it went. The wind seemed to sing or whistle as it rushed through the depths of the hollows.

On they journeyed, down a long, narrow ravine and the vastness of the landscape began to change and shift.

In the distance, two sloping mountains, smooth and round, rose up. From the peak, she could see a herd of horses galloping through the grassy flatlands. She searched them hopefully as the herd flowed and danced together in a seemingly choreographed chase.

The smooth stretch of land ahead had been grazed over, perhaps by the horses, or sheep that had also come this way. She and the donkey travelled along. During the day she used her map and looked for landmarks. They walked through the night with the stars to guide them. She often found herself scanning the horizon for another glimpse of that compelling creature, ready at a moment’s notice to throw the map aside and run with the mares.

Eventually, she came to a small signpost in the middle of the flat plains. It was a human touch in the untouched wilderness. The post looked like a cross stuck into the ground, but there was a flat wooden circle nailed to the top of the criss-crossed wood. It made her think of the circle of life, or the cycles of life, or the cyclical nature of time. She realized this was the trailhead marker. She could see it on her map, and here it was in person. When she came close to it, she wiped away the dust on the circular sign and realized it was covered with aluminum. She could see her reflection, and in that reflection, she could see her mother, her grandmother, and on and on into the ancient past of all the mothers who lived in her, before her, and of all the generations yet to come through her. 

Just beyond the sign, in the low grasses, she could make out the trail—and it was a straight and narrow path.

She followed the trail in the darkest part of the night, which is just before dawn. She came up over a slope and looking down she could see two tall trees as looming shadows in the distance. The trail disappeared between them.

Part 2


Just before she entered the woods, she glanced back along the horizon. Bright orange and red hues were growing increasingly vibrant in the night sky. With great surprise, she saw the stallion again galloping in the distance. Other horses, mares perhaps, could be made out chasing him as he flew past. She thought she saw a glint of light reflected near his forehead before he disappeared again. In her mind’s eye, she could still see the stallion’s graceful movements.

The ball of a fiery sun came up slowly like a chariot with red and orange splashes of color racing out in front of it. The purple, gray and midnight blues of the dome above her were being transformed into morning. She looked at the map to orient herself. The map, like the donkey, was reliable and steady. Her heart beat wild and reckless, like the stomping thunder of racing horses.

The donkey continued confidently on its feet marching through the morning dew. Surefooted. Humble. Trustworthy. It carried all that was ever needed--the tent, a sleeping bag, and clothes for modesty and warmth. It also carried water, bread and fruit, bittersweet chocolate, lilac wine and stringed instruments to make a mournful song when she felt lonely or sad. She decided not to look back. Carrying her burden, the donkey moved with her into the woods and she used her hand to guide it along the trail. She glanced at the length of the wood as she passed by the two cedars standing tall like two long legs of a sentinel.

The sun continued to rise, but she could not see what was ahead through the thickness of the trees. Her heart began to beat faster as she moved through the thicket. The trail seemed to be rising up, growing steeper as she climbed. She climbed. And climbed. Suddenly, the thick trees and overgrown bushes gave way to a vast open area. The sun shone brightly and the birds were singing like a chorus of angels.

The colors were vibrant. Birds of Paradise and other enormous flowers surrounded the lake. Within the flowers, she could see the yellow pollen dusting the tips of the stamens which gracefully arched down into the center of the flower where all parts connected together as one. And from the center of the flowers, she could see the stems and the stigma surrounded by colorful petals and all of it reaching toward the sky. Water poured out of a crevice in the rock high above, crashing down in a crescendo as she moved in closer. The waterfall poured into the lake creating foamy white bubbles in the deep and still waters. Ripples formed along the water’s surface spreading out in concentric circles. She waded in. There was a remarkable peacefulness in this place. Hope. Completeness. Love.

The donkey’s eyes were round dark pools, and surrounded by thick lashes. It’s nose was soft and reassuring. She took her burden off it’s back. She laid the items on the grass next to the gentle waters.

“We’ll stay,” she said decisively.

Then, and she thought it was only in her imagination, beyond the soothing sounds of the falling water, the chirping crickets and songbirds, beyond the wind moving through the trees, she thought she heard a faint and distant neigh of the stallion. For some reason, in this mystical place, she felt convinced she had seen a unicorn. She shook her head. Unicorns are mythical creatures. But, remarkably, the map proved true and this place was real.

Overcome with gratitude, she put the map in her book for safe keeping. When she returned at last, she would discover it’s metaphor. She kept it hidden within the pages, with the hope that one day a friend might learn of this utopian place. They’d need a map to get there.

Tuesday, September 11, 2018

A Caterpillar's Bible


“Is this depression?” Eva wondered as her body inched forward. She had to drag every ounce across the wooden walkway that felt rough under her feet and seemed to go on forever. Dark shadows above her seemed to swoop and sway menacingly. She wanted to disappear, but she was also starving. Hunger was the only thing that willed her to go on. This hunger guided her like an invisible sign pointing the way or a silent urging call. She turned slowly down a more narrow path, still on scratchy wood, still rough on her feet.

She saw something thin and flat waving in the wind, like paper. It was green. When she strained her neck, she could see hundreds of these pages floating around and above her. The words of life seemed to be written on them and she could see the words reflecting and glittering in the sun. She took a slow and careful bite. She chewed for a long time, trying to make sense of it, trying to digest it. Her body began to feel heavier than ever before, but her mind felt different. For the first time, she experienced a glimmer of hope. So accustomed to downward spiraling thoughts that seemed to form a rope around her body, she suddenly knew that her useless hands and stubborn, slow, heavy body could never stop her from eating these green pages with the words of life glittering on them. Almost unable, she kept moving ahead.

She ate. She ate the words. She ate more and more and more. Her body grew bigger and slower, but her mind felt lighter and almost free. She consumed these pages without a thought anymore to the swooping shadows and darkness that threatened above her. It was as if the pages provided shelter — from enemies and from the storm. She chewed and swallowed. Again. And again. She grew, bigger, slower, and heavier.

One morning, when she woke up, she couldn’t move. She couldn’t go another inch. The leafy pages around her and above her still danced in the wind. She wanted more, but her body had finally won. She couldn’t move. She began to cry. Her tears poured out like the rain that pitter-pattered on the leafy papers, now a thousand umbrellas to shelter her. She cried hard, pouring out all of her depression and all of her newly awakened mind. She cried all the weight of her heavy body into those tears. Written in those tears were the words of life. She lay her life down, and it felt like death. She closed her eyes and still the tears poured out of her like silken words and she began to weave them around herself. She spun the weight of her helplessness. She spun the heaviness of her depression. She spun all the thickness of her body and being around and around her — like a cocoon.

It was dark and silent. She could see nothing anymore, as if the words of life were wrapped tightly around her very soul. Somehow, she knew that to the world (and those dancing green pages, and those swooping shadows), she no longer existed. And yet, she began to think that all the colors of light were somehow wrapped inside the great absence of color that surrounded her. Although her eyes were closed and her body paralyzed, she started to feel all the color of the rainbow write itself into her skin.

A day passed. Maybe a week. Could have been years. She was suddenly filled with an insatiable thirst. This thirst, like an invisible sign or a silent urging call, willed her to go on. “Be brave,” her thirst seemed to say. “Don’t be afraid,” it said. And then, “The burden I give you is light.” Remembering, she took a slow and careful bite. She chewed for a long time trying to make sense of it, trying to digest it. But, there was nothing in this bite. The words of life that had wrapped around her were no longer outside her in this empty, dry casing, but rather had found their way somewhere else. So, she broke the casing. She pushed and pulled her way through. She felt vulnerable but brave. Hopeful and unafraid.

She opened her eyes, but all was dark in the world. No clouds, or moon, or stars. She stretched her arms and prepared as if to dance. For the first time her body did not feel so heavy. Her depression did not feel so eternal. She could feel the rough scratchy wood under her feet again. She took a deep breath and she felt joy surge in her heart. Now, she could feel the wind. Wind in her hair. Wind under her feet.

Purple and pink began to spread out before her. Then, orange and red. Then a fiery burning, unquenchable light broke through the darkness. The light was with her and the light of the words of life could be seen by all the universe, written on her humble and eternal wings.

Tuesday, August 14, 2018

Be Still and Know That I Am (That I Am)



Stillness sounds like birds chirping. 
Stillness feels like easy breathing,
And warm feet covered in soft blankets. 
Stillness looks like a blank page that asks nothing, 
Except for me to be to me. 

In the stillness, have I drifted in and out of sleep? In this stillness, I’ve allowed my mind to wander as thoughts come up. I remember seeing small children dancing with dust on their bare feet while the church band played. My feet feel clammy and cold, but they are covered in warm, soft blankets. The birds are chirping, but the small child next door is crying. I can hear her through my open windows.

When my mind wanders like this, my breathing is easy until I think of the children separated from their parents. I’ve heard those babies crying, too. I made sense of those separations and abandonments within a system called, Child Welfare. But, there are also abandonments that I can’t make sense of, thinking of the pre-teen wearing hijab, speaking to the world from a dark room with no windows, saying, “Only God alone has not abandoned us!” Her cries ring in my ears: “Where are you, world?” My breathing becomes difficult. My stomach, lungs and chest feel as if they are all in my throat at once.

Let me drift away from these troubling thoughts; the sky is fading from blue to grey to black. The night divides the day: the separation of the rich & the poor, the mother & the child, and the body & the soul...

Stillness sounds like deaf ears
Stillness feels like no breath in the lungs,
And warm earth tossed over cold feet.
Stillness looks like a blank life that asks nothing
Except for you to be...no more.
 
From this stillness, may We rise with breath deep in our lungs and blood pounding in our chests. Come! Rise up with open eyes, with open hands, and with open hearts. In the stillness, may we listen with ears to hear both the chirping of the birds and the cries coming from our neighbor’s open windows. May we feel the rhythm of human breath in our lungs--which, from dust to dust, is never ever still.

Wednesday, June 20, 2018

Hurricane Donald

It was bedtime for the children, and we were listening to the radio. There was a great hurricane coming, they said. A raging, devastating, and powerful storm.

The storm moved slowly and deliberately toward the shore of our country. No one really believed it would land. All the technology and measurements had predicted that it would pass by and die out at sea.

The storm landed. The storm moved inland. The storm raged. 

The city politicians had given fair warning and an easy exit for the upper-middle class and wealthy voters to leave quickly. Most of these people found a place for themselves -- in their comfortable summer homes, in well furnished guest bedrooms of family or friends, and in fancy hotels. Each had a safe place to watch the storm unfold on their screens. 

The poor and the homeless were hit first. They were hit hard. The disabled and those living on the margins of cities were abandoned. In the high winds, children were ripped from the arms of their parents. 

Here in the midwest, a safe distance away, there were two news stations covering the events, and one radio station which broadcast the impact of the storm in 20-second sound bites. These news sources had an unearthly power to numb hearts and minds into an impenetrable indifference. People were hypnotized by news of the storm as they stared at their screens with eyes that could not see. They listened with ears that could not hear. They sat in front of these glowing screens, in comfortable armchairs, like theater chairs with cup holders. They were strangely paralyzed by the real-time images and could not move. 

The first of the two news stations had access to the devastation from just outside of the hurricane. Looking from the outside in, one could see images of looming, dark rain clouds and an ominous spiral of wind and water. Debris as big as cars and boats floated up like autumn leaves in a violent swirl of wind. The news anchors interviewed those who had just narrowly escaped from the storm. As their hair whipped wildly, one could see desperation and pleading. They cried out helplessly to the world. Help the ones left behind. Help the ones we love. The news anchors nodded at these words with pity stretched across their faces.

The second of the two news stations recorded the events from within the eye of the hurricane. There, in the eye of the storm, were blue skies and calm air--eerily calm air. These news anchors shared their perspectives of the raging storm around them, articulating only one message clearly: the law of nature reigns supreme. Blame, defensiveness, and hoarding were only side effects of this immutable law. In this eerily calm center of such a powerful storm, one could virtually watch them gather as much wealth and resources from the debris as they could. They did not fear the storm, but tried to move along with it, according to the laws of nature. They had only one great fear, that “those people out there” might bring their devastation from the outside in. 

It seemed so safe and prosperous in the eye of the storm. We wondered why there was no compassion there. We wondered why there was no generosity. Yet, we started to realize, in a strange inversion of place---that a great storm raged within the very hearts of those standing under the calm blue skies and eerie air. On the screen, you could barely see it. But, if you looked closely enough, you could see under perfectly placed hair and pearly white teeth, there existed a dark and self-serving rage. 

Likewise, through this strange inversion of time and place, in the hearts of those being battered by the storm, there was a light. It was a powerful light flickering like a candle in the dark. This flickering light existed in the very souls of those who had lost and were losing everything. They alone knew what it meant to love someone other than themselves. In their battered hearts came a new thing on earth. It was the most ancient of things. It was the beginning and the end of all things. It was love. 

Meanwhile, the radio waves brought their voices--all the voices--to the farthest corners of the earth. These radio waves did not bring hypnotizing images on screens, but rather just words and stories. 

It’s bedtime. We shouldn’t go to sleep. But, only the children know how to discern the good from the evil, and only we can protect them from the storm. The storm is raging out there; the storm is raging in here. Let’s tell them a bedtime story, and hope the children sleep.

Wednesday, June 6, 2018

Care for the Vulnerable is Knowledge of God

I worked in the foster care case management system for 4 years. It's important work. It's vital spiritual work (using biblical language) to care for the widows and orphans. The prophet Jeremiah writes: "This is what the LORD says: Administer justice and righteousness. Rescue the victim of robbery from the hand of the oppressor. Do no wrong or violence to the foreigner, the orphan, or the widow. Do not shed innocent blood in this place." (22:3)

Today, we "rescue" victims of intergenerational and systemic robbery by giving out treatment plans and telling people to find a job. We do violence to the foreigner by criminalizing their very presence. We "take care" of widows by making their children orphans. Innocent blood runs thick in our soil. Pay attention to what our administration administers--and stay awake to how your communities care for the vulnerable. We have a long history of child-snatching.

Images from my work in the foster care system cannot be erased from my memory:
An 8 year old boy, falling to his knees, hands clasped and arms raised up in prayer, refusing to rise for the CPS worker. His mother crying out. The police standing by.

Gazing through a sparse but well-worn family photo album, sitting side by side with a mother who had lost 2 children to the system already. I listened to her voice, pregnant with longing and emotion for each of her sons. I looked in her eyes. I heard my voice saying that I would be recommending termination of her parental rights over her medically fragile infant at our next court hearing. She wouldn't (or couldn't) look at me as I sat in front of the judge that day.

The foster parent's face, who had cared for a 6 year old girl for over a year, torn with grief and concern as the girl was placed back in her mother's arms. 
It's hard to reconcile faith with this reality of experience. But, "Care for the vulnerable is knowledge of God," Walter Brueggemann writes. This does not mean that the one leads to the other or vice versa. "Rather they are synonyms!" he exclaims.

Christian nation, your God has spoken, but your ears are closed. Hear this: "You shall not abuse any widow or orphan. If you do abuse them, when they cry out to me, I will surely heed their cry; my wrath will burn, and I will kill you with the sword, and your wives shall become widows and your children orphans" (22:23-24, emphasis mine). Why is this so comforting for me even when I know I am implicated? Perhaps, because to my ears, it sounds like the administration of justice. 

Tuesday, May 29, 2018

Modesty

Last night, I sat in the children’s dark and quiet room. I could hear their gentle breathing and occasionally, a shift of their covers. The sounds of rest. But, the thoughts in my mind were fitful. I felt afraid, exposed. I have thrown my pearls away…Who will value my precious words when I expose them for free?

I would flaunt my body as if at a public swimming pool where people who should not see may freely gaze and stare (for example, married men, self-critical women, and young children learning gender-binaries through careful observation). But, this is more than than a day at the pool. This is my hidden self, my private thoughts made public. But, Oh! to be able to fully reveal my inner self--I would cover my body and pull back my hair; I would reveal the light within the darkness of my soul. Modesty is such an important value.

“Our hands and our faces, especially our eyes, are revealed,” an Orthodox woman wrote. “Pay attention, not to what we cover up, but to what we reveal. Our eyes are the windows into the soul.”

With my words, I reveal the inner looking of my heart and mind. I reveal parts of my soul with a pen in my hands. There is a still, small voice that dwells in deep darkness. But, I am a Western woman. I have been taught to cover my mouth, to turn a blind eye, and hold back carefully manicured hands from the poor. We are taught it young: reveal your body, not your mind. Low cut dresses and short skirts. Hair blown dry, so smooth and straight. Eyeliner and lip gloss. A certain kind of smile (seductive at times, receptive to the male gaze, and friendly but guarded to the lonely stranger). But, Oh! what would it be to cover my body and reveal my soul? To cover my long legs and my critiqueable chest, but reveal my hands to a stranger in need.

In my fitful thinking, I wonder: Have I been too vulnerable with my words?
“You should wear your hair down more often,” people say to me (often). I want to be seen, but don’t they know, I’m putting down my words instead. They are long, thick and unruly. They are not dried straight or bleached blonde. They are my natural color. Pay attention, not to what I cover up, but to what I reveal. I reveal my eyes with my soul behind them and a pen in my calloused and careworn hands.