The Arrogance of Thinking, "I Don't Really Matter."

Meditating at Dawn

Today, I woke up before dawn. With a hot cup of coffee and a pen in hand, and I'm filled with gratitude. The birds chirp as if to welcome the coming day, joining their simple song with the chorus of angels. My three children sleep soundly. My partner tinkers about in the kitchen, getting ready to work. Life can be good. But, there was a time, the lowest of times and the darkest of nights. My great descent. This was not a moment of loss or illness or disaster. It could have been a night like any other. I felt to the core of my being: “I don’t really matter.” I wonder, now, if this thought has led others to their lowest of lows, to suicide, reckless behavior, or a lifetime of greed. I've also come to realize that this thought is not humility, but quite the opposite: arrogance. When we think, "I don't really matter," what we are really saying is, “I can do what I want.”

Was this one moment, or many? There is only one thing to do when we’ve reached our lowest point: go up. 

In my early morning reading, I discovered this insight — all sin derives from the sin of insignificance. The Chassidic Masters explore this idea from a verse in Leviticus:

"If you will not harken to Me, and walk casually with Me, I too will act casually with you…" (Lev 26:28) 

All sins derive from the sin of insignificance: when a person ceases to be sensitive to the paramount importance which G-d attaches to his life and deeds. “I don’t really matter” is not humility—it is the ultimate arrogance. It really means: “I can do what I want.” The most terrible of punishments is for G-d to indulge the sinner this vanity. For G-d to say: “All right, have it your way; what happens to you is of no significance”—for G-d to act toward him as if He really does not care what happens to him. (The Chassidic Masters) 

The New Revised Standard Version (NRSV) translates Leviticus 26:28: “If you continue hostile to me, then I too will continue hostile to you in a fury...” But, instead of “hostile,” the Chassidim translated this verse as saying, “If you walk casually with Me.” So, there must be a link between hostile fury and treating someone casually.

In the realm of relationships, I've heard that the end of love does not come when a couple argues with each other. When they rage and fight and fury, there is still hope. The secret of their anger is that they still care. The end of a relationship comes when one or both members of the couple turn away. Looking in opposite directions, they have become casual and cold, indifferent to the significance of the other. So, I wonder which translation is better (or which punishment worse)? A casual God or a hostile-with-fury God? What would most likely bring you back? Abraham Heschel wrote, "The secret of anger is God's care."

In my work for justice, there is a rage against the indifference of the rich and privileged. This fury is like God’s fury. This fury is our hope for change. The protest of the oppressed is a thirst and a hunger for justice that Jesus called Blessed (see Ken Wilson's article: "The God-Given Right of Howling Protest"). 

“Blessed are you who hunger and thirst for justice now, for you will be filled” (Luke 6:21).

A society should never fear this type of righteous anger, this howling protest. It's the only antidote to the indifference of the rich and privileged who laugh in the face of suffering and take their fill in the time of hunger. I never before connected my own feelings of insignificance to this height of arrogance. And yet, this is the attitude of the wealthy and privileged today: “I can do what I want.” Anti-racist activists fight against this casual arrogance when the masses of white people remain indifferent to Black lives. This is the casual arrogance of religious condemnation that LGBTQ folks must resist with all their might--our deepest desires do matter. The great significance of our own life and the lives of others should never be treated casually.

I remember some years ago, coming home to my small townhouse in Oak Park, Michigan, after being in the hospital. It was a late afternoon. I looked around at the grey walls and thought of the many moments in this home, and in others before it, when I felt my insignificance: “I don’t really matter.” Something like a prayer surged up within me. With all the fury of righteous indignation and all the passions of divine love, I defied that insignificance. I said aloud, “I want God in this house!” I was humbled and hungry. I also knew without a doubt that I do matter, and what I do matters. This gave a new dimension to the social injustices I have long fought against. Not a single soul is insignificant--including mine.

We descend to ascend. The only thing to do when we’ve reached our lowest point is to go up. Walking forward one day at a time knowing that you matter and that you are not alone. The darkest moments of the night are just before dawn. It’s dark out yet, and my pen's in hand. I hear the song of birds. I write with an awareness of the great significance of our being.

A Rainbow in the Time of COVID-19

I saw a rainbow yesterday. An arc of compassion covering our drowning world. A bow with no arrow. A bow symbolizing peace. The only arrows I see in our quiver (as I quiver) are the children. The rainbow (and our children) are a sign of hope for a world gone wrong.

This virus takes our breath away. The pandemic sweeps through our world like a baptism or a flood, like Noah’s flood. We can’t breathe. Like a flood, the virus does not discriminate, but in our days, the poor die first. The vulnerable, the elderly, and those suffering from the pre-existing conditions of racist oppression are the ones to die first. The wealthy and powerful have fancy arks of their own--secluded mansions with no signs of life, but plentiful access to testing kits, healthcare, and ventilators.

The virus does not care if you are rich or poor, but the poor die first. We cannot breathe. We cannot breathe. “I can’t breathe!” Eric Garner’s last words ring out like an echo through our nation’s history. We are a nation who refuses to see that Black Lives Matter. We profit from prisons, and put children in cages. We are a nation who swims in greed for profit, and then blame the gay.

Why, O Lord, do the righteous suffer while the wicked prosper?

Noah was a righteous man, but only for his time. He obediently saved himself with a bit of an F-you! to the rest of the evil world. But, who are the righteous of our day? Because unlike Noah, Abraham argued against God’s plan for destruction, “Far be it from You to do such a thing!” And Moses pleaded with God after the golden calf, “Have mercy on them, or else blot me out of your book.” On the night of his crucifixion, Jesus prayed, “Forgive them, for they know not what they do.”

O Lord our God, far be it from you to do such a thing. We challenge this divine decree. Have mercy on us, O God. Give us our sight, for we know not what we do.

This virus doesn’t have to be a flood for us to know that we cannot breathe. The rainbow is a sign of hope for a world gone wrong. This is a flood, or perhaps, this is our baptism. When it is over, we will take our first breath, look to the sky, and listen (perhaps, we will finally listen), so that our children may know: 

The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he has anointed me to bring good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim release to the prisoners and recovery of sight to the blind, to let the oppressed go free, to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor. (Isaiah 61:1-2)

God Makes a Way Out of No Way

The enormity of our situation today can be paralyzing. We are not only facing a worldwide Covid-19 health crisis, but also living through the harmful effects of a society that prioritizes the concerns of the wealthy and privileged over the most vulnerable. In short, we face both oppression and plague. People seem to be responding by splitting into four different groups as we face the crisis of this moment:

1. Some are diving into this time of isolation by trying to create sanctuary amidst a world in crisis. Whether creating safe spaces and supportive groups, or by settling in at home.
2. Some are accepting reality and dealing with reality on its own terms--staying alert, gathering information, following the trends and responding accordingly. 
3. Some are out there fighting the necessary battles--whether by working on the front lines or by working to meet the needs of the most vulnerable in our families and our communities. 
4. Some are just scared and anxious, probably all of us at times. In moments like these, many of us call out to God. 

These are all appropriate responses. But, I also recently heard a quote by the poet Mary Oliver and it landed well:

“Keep some room in your heart for the unimaginable.”

I’m a Youth Pastor (a2blue.org) with a tendency to go deep. My young people like funny stories. So, on a much lighter note, my family and I had a small crisis of our own--we thought we were running out of toilet paper. But, thank the Lord! Our bidet just arrived in the mail. (A bidet, “buh-dei,” is basically a water wash instead of using toilet paper.) We like to joke that we’re taking this whole thing, “Day Bidet.”

Bad jokes aside, it is important to take this day by day. Keep moving forward. One day at a time. As African American Womanist, Monica Coleman, says, “God makes a way out of no way.”

At times like this, we need stories. Personal stories, stories from history, mythical stories, and stories from the Bible. Stories teach us, comfort us, and guide us. The Hebrew Bible tells a story about the Israelites who escaped from harsh oppression and ten plagues. The story goes that the people escaped in a great hurry and had little time to prepare for their new normal out in the wilderness. Then, they came up to the Red Sea with Pharaoh and his army hot on their heels. The people went forward. They put their feet into the water. Miraculously, the LORD split the Red Sea, and they were able to walk through safely on dry land. This story, told and retold, gives hope for each and every generation facing the crises of their own times. This miracle gives hope that God will make a way for us.

I also want to dig deeper. Just before the Red Sea split, the people faced a critical moment. They found themselves caught at the sea with oppressive forces closing in. There is an ancient Jewish commentary on the Bible, a Midrash, that teaches that at this very moment, the people split into four factions. The first of the four factions wanted to dive headfirst into the sea. The second group wanted to accept reality and return to Egypt. The third group wanted to wage war against Pharaoh and his army. It says the fourth group cried out to God. But in Exodus 14:15, we read that God said to Moses: “Why do you cry out to Me? Speak to the children, that they should go forward!”

The Rabbis taught that we are not to escape reality, not to submit to it, not to wage war, and not to deal with it only on a spiritual level, but to go forth. God-with-us. Day by day. One day at a time. 

I’ve been reading the Sarum Prayer daily. The five lines of this prayer speak to the five different ways that we might be responding to this moment in time. So, let’s end with the Sarum Prayer:

God be in my head, and in my understanding. Let us create holy sanctuary amidst a world in crisis. It’s important to create safe spaces, especially when you are vulnerable or part of a targeted group.

God be in my eyes and in my looking. We must see reality as it is, and deal with reality on it’s own terms. Pay attention. Stay awake.

God be in my mouth and in my speaking. It’s necessary to wage war against evil, and the tongue can be like a sword. Speak truth to power in times like these.

God be in my heart, and in my thinking. It’s important to recognize that we cannot go this alone, and we can always appeal to God for help with our hearts and minds. There is incredible power in a single prayer.

The last line of the Sarum Prayer says: God be at my end, and at my departing. This teaches that we stand together with our head, our eyes, our mouth, and our heart and then go forward with our feet. Do justice. Love kindness. Walk humbly. 

God makes a way out of no way.

God: A Boss or in Solidarity with the Oppressed?

The hands from Michelangelo's Creation of Adam 

Assigning an Identity to God

In a recent article, a Stanford psychologist found that the identity U.S. Christians make of God is the same identity they attribute to a boss. Dr. Roberts found it somewhat shocking that U.S. Christians explicitly attribute a race and a gender to God--and found this has real world consequences. He summarized in this way, “Basically, if you believe that a white man rules the heavens, you are more likely to believe that white men should rule on Earth.”

Three men founded the church I grew up in: a Jewish man, a black man, and a white man. Our church, or fellowship, as it was called, belonged to a larger ecumenical, charismatic Christian community in the diverse college town of Ann Arbor, Michigan. This Christian community, The Word of God, had weekly prayer meetings, common households, and a mission. Catholics and Protestants of different denominations came together to experience the movement of the Holy Spirit. It was an idealistic community where people gave their lives for the Lord. “God loves all people,” they impressed upon me. And I believed them. I remember being in Kindergarten and opening my first Bible with great enthusiasm as though it held the key to God’s love for all people--and for me. 

The Hebrew Bible that Christians cherish commands us to create no image of God. But, the Stanford study shows that U.S. Christians certainly do--and attribute that image to positions of authority. In our Christian community there was a strict gendered hierarchy. Men were called Heads (as in the “head” of their household or some as District Heads--leaders over a hierarchy of members in various districts). The women were called Handmaidens, and wore headscarves during worship. Each member was assigned a spiritual leader who had the power to interpret God’s will for their lives. As it grew, a restrictive power structure evolved. The Word of God was investigated as a cult by the Roman Catholic Church and the Lutheran Church-Missouri Synod in the 1980’s. These were the formative years of my childhood.

When we imagine a gender or racial identity in God, we are saying something about who has (or should) hold power on earth. Reflecting on the incarnation, my mother once told me, “If God came through someone in the U.S., God would probably come as a working-class Black woman.” Today, she'd likely add queer to her list. In her own way, she was exploring this idea from the Stanford research--that the characteristics we attribute to God translate to real-world views. In consideration of current hierarchies, her view begs the question: Is God a boss or a living God who moves in solidarity with the oppressed?

Trumpism Today 

Not all, but many of the charismatics from my childhood are now part of the Religious Right. These people, my people, elected Trump. Fighting abortion is the rallying cry. But, the seeds of Trumpism were planted long ago. I more recently learned that the highest levels of leadership in the Word of God in the 1970’s and ‘80’s believed they had a mission to fight against four “evils” in society: Feminism, Islam, Humanism, and the “gay agenda.”

As a child of the Word of God, I often wonder about the young people involved. How did this conservative community, set in a diverse college town, growing into the thousands and spreading around the world through The Sword of the Spirit, shape it's young people? 

Cut to almost 40 years later…

The three founding members of my childhood church have gone their own ways, but to my knowledge, all three oppose Trump. In fact, today, I work with one of them. He lost the church he founded over his advocacy for LGBTQ+ people, and is now a co-pastor with an amazing, queer, woman who I admire, Emily Swan. And as for me, the four "evils" the Word of God fought against did not stick. I'm a social worker turned pastor, striving to be an antiracist feminist, fighting against bigotry--including Islamophobia. I’m married to an agnostic doctor, and belong to a fully affirming LGBTQ+ inclusive church. However, remnants of my childhood remain: building Beloved Community, believing in God’s love for all people, and careful study of the Bible.

God Lives in Solidarity

A powerfully subversive message drives our work at Blue Ocean Faith Ann Arbor, and is summed up in a New Testament parable: “Whatever you did to the least of these, you did to me.” (Matthew 25:40) This does not say: Make the least of these more like you. It positions the Highest Power as One among us with the least. It requires action. It means there’s nothing wrong with those we've considered “the least of these.” Rather, there is something wrong with us when we stand by and do nothing while people around us get the short end of the power stick.

Perhaps the U.S. Christian image of God is reflected in the identity of their chosen leader: a wealthy, white, male president who "gets things done"—one who fights against women’s rights, Islam, climate change, and LGBTQ+ people. But, I have found a community of people, a gathering of exiles, who believe that God lives in solidarity with the oppressed. 

My People in the Religious Right: A Stiff Necked People

 ...more like a man, 

Flying from something he dreads than one 

Who sought the thing he loved. 

-William Wordsworth

Imagine a young boy in a youth group fired up for Christ. This boy finds belonging and a love for God. Yet, here and there and, in hindsight, everywhere, toxic anti-gay messages have been peppered throughout as a constant threat to belonging. These messages are absorbed into the subconscious, like drinking water sprinkled with powdered kool aid. When he grows up and can (at last!) self-define, this young man recognizes the harm done. He can see it has not only harmed him, but the ones he loves. He speaks to the people about their harm. They refuse to listen. He rebukes them. They refuse to listen. So, he rejects all things spiritual because of this great harm done to the soul--much like a man flying from the thing he dreads. Yet, “aversiveness always conceals a lure.” There remains a hidden longing: for sanctification, holiness, and affirmation from God and community. 

I’m a Youth Pastor for a church with 30% LGBTQ and 70% allies (a2blue.org). I hear stories like this because traumatized people have found a safe space to share them. Youth groups and Bible stories can be captivating to young people at a time when belonging is essential. But, there is no denying that religion can be exclusive, toxic, and harmful to people in the margins. To read these texts and be moved by them when you belong to an excluded group, requires a different way of reading. There must come a deep acceptance of self and centering of exiled people. One must cultivate an awareness of the hidden, unspoken, and equally valid points of view not explicit in the written text. We read the stories as inhabiting the full human spectrum. Ultimately, the heart of scripture is the command to love. All people are made in the divine image. Time and time again, we learn: God calls us by name. 

Imagine another young man. He finally decides to come out to his conservative parents. He found the person he wants to spend the rest of his life with. He is deeply in love. The young man decides to make this love, this inward grace, visible through the sacrament of marriage. So, he asks his parents to come to his wedding. They refuse. Flying from the thing they dread, they fix themselves to certain pieties. The parents have built up for themselves a certainty that this is the God, and so give up their most beloved possession, their own son. 

In the book of Exodus, God describes the people as an intransigent people who cling to the pieties of the past; a people who refuse to hear those who would rebuke them; a people who are loyal to a fault. It is written:

“I have seen these people,” the Lord said to Moses, “and they are a stiff-necked people. Now leave me alone so that my anger may burn against them…” (Exodus 32:9)

This verse comes from the story in Exodus just after they built the Golden Calf. The event is often considered a fickleness, an adulterous turning from the living God to worship other “not-gods.” In this verse, however, God describes another side to their idolatry: “stiff-necked.” In Rashi’s words: “They turn the stiff back of their necks toward those who would rebuke them and refuse to listen” (my italics). In a remarkable turn of events, the people who just declared, “we will hear,” refuse to listen. 

Avivah Gottlieb Zornberg articulates this concept well. She writes, 

“If the implications of the “stiff neck” are taken seriously, then, they disturb a primary notion of idolatry as infidelity. Perhaps, after all, the people are all too pious in their attachments? Perhaps they have never, in fact, left [that enslaving nation], that place of the deaf and dumb and the callous hearted?” (409, The Particulars of Rapture) 

Rather than a fickle turning to a new deity, the image of the stiff-neck is clinging to a previous attachment with a callous heart. 

We must wonder how long it took. How long from the time the people received the revelation, declaring, “We will do and we will hear!” (Ex. 19:8) and this stubborn clinging to old pieties (Ex. 32:9)? A midrash suggests 40 days, two days, half a day…(perhaps two thousand years?). The people had an inkling that the prophet was delayed, and so they threw their most precious possessions into the fire saying with certainty, “This is the God…” 

When Moses returns and sees the people, he breaks the tablets at the foot of the mountain. In a gruesome description, he grinds the Golden Calf, sprinkles it into the water, and makes the people drink it (Ex. 32:20). I wonder if this action is a possible therapeutic antidote to their actions. It’s an eye-opener for sure. This time, they taste the “kool aid” in full awareness of its toxicity. 

Nevertheless, Moses pleads with God for forgiveness and mercy on the people. In the biblical story (and for some today), the people repent. Their fixed pieties cease to hold power. A new relationship with God and neighbor is made possible. Far from relying on certainties, they finally open their ears to hear. 

Listening to the untold stories, like the boy in the youth group or a young man in love, makes way for a deep knowing, to your core, that your friends who are being excluded definitively belong to God’s beloved community, in full inclusion. Biblical stories take on new meaning. Most importantly, the too often silenced exiles and their stories come to be centered as the most precious part of the whole--sanctified, holy, and affirmed.

Babies Wedged In Border Walls

(Children playing on seesaws along border wall, police standing by)
AP Image from Daily Sabah

Children play on seesaws at the border wall. Words, like a seesaws, from ancient Midrash to modern day, take us back and forth, up and down, so that what was then is now, and what is now was also then:

“The more they were oppressed, the more they increased and spread out, so that the citizens were sickened by the foreigners” (Exodus 1:12).

The text describes this foreign people who lived in the land as “swarming hoards,” a fertile and fruitful people that increased greatly, even under harsh oppression, so that the land was filled with them. We, the readers of the text, have to ask, who are these people today? Who are the hard working people from distant lands who have increased and spread out? Who are the citizens that were sickened by them?

Perhaps, they are the people being rounded up at workplaces by the hundreds, their lives wedged into the bricks of our American walls and store cities. Perhaps, they are the strangers among us whose blood police have spilled into the dirt with impunity. Perhaps, they are the gay members at a church who reveal fruits of the spirit in their relationships and their lives, only to be expelled from the pews with a slanderous word.

He, the powerful ruler, was described as slanderous and hard hearted. Did he have an orange hue? Did he grimace and scowl? The scripture says he, this ancient ruler, built profitable store cities. His buildings were made through harsh and exploitative labor. His walls were made with brick and clay. His police would strangle and suffocate the working people in the walls, between the bricks.

The Midrash, like a stone in the water, sends ripples to the shoreline of this very moment in time:

Said Rabbi Akiva: Pharaoh’s police would strangle the Israelites in the walls of the buildings, between the bricks. And they would cry out from within the walls and God would hear their moaning, as it is said, “And God heard their moaning and God remembered...” (2:24)                                                  [Perke d’Rabbi Eliezer, 48]. 

This great wall suffocates and strangles God’s people. It seems America is like a child who loves to hear the same story over and over—because this same story is happening today. 

God says to those crying out from within the walls that they will know Him by His name: “I shall be with you.” God told the great redeemer of God’s people God’s name: “I will be what I will be” or “I am who I am.” The prophet knew this meant God would be with them now and with them in the future—and, unbearably, this meant it was going to get worse. So, he told the people only the first part, “I AM sent me to you” (Exodus 3:14).

It got worse.

The ruler advocated for the children to be separated from their parents. He ordered the “border guards”—midwives who stand on the border of the womb and the world—to separate the babies from their parents when they arrived! But, the midwife-border guards in the sacred text feared God and did not do what their ruler commanded.

Says the Midrash Yalkut Shimeoni Shemoth: God brought the matter before all the guardian angels of the nations, and He explained the case to the guardian angels of the nations. He explained the matter of enslavement and buildings, of drowning babies in rivers. And the guardian angel of the enslavers stepped forward. This angel proclaimed God’s justice and God’s truth, but begged: “If you please, save the foreigners, but don’t destroy [this] nation.” Which nation?! Our nation? Do we send our angels to beg God not to destroy this great nation and our profitable store cities?

It got even worse. The midrash continues almost unbearably, describing a baby wedged in brick…

Said Rabbi Joshua Ben Levi: When the Angel, Michael saw that the angels of the nations were supporting the Egyptian case, he made a sign to the angel Gabriel, who flew to Egypt in one swoop, and extracted from a building one brick with its clay and with one baby that they had wedged into the building. He said, “Master of the universe, this is the story of how they enslaved your children.”

It says: 

Immediately, Egypt drowned in the Red Sea; [that is…] the clay that Gabriel brought caused Egypt to drown.                                                [Yalkut Shimeoni Shemoth 247]

What is the way through this horror story which mirrors our own? Where is the hope and redemption of our tale? We are in the middle of it, and we cannot say the end. But, the text has a hopeful ending…

The book of Exodus tells a story of one foreign baby wedged in a box lined with clay, placed on the river among the reeds. The English translations say it was a basket. It was not a basket. It was a box (tebah: a box/ark). A box lined with clay. There was a baby wedged in this brick. In his brick-box-ark lined with pitch and clay, his mother—the mother of a three month old—placed her beloved infant in a box in the river among the reeds, praying for redemption.

I suppose time will tell the rest.

Today, my three month old rocks in a swing and I know that the children will play. They will play with the stories we tell, and they will play on seesaws along our monstrous walls. The child in me also plays; I play with words. I read these stories and their midrash with a childlike wonder: How did they know to tell our story so many centuries ago? And how did we know to hear their story as our own? Like a seesaw from the past to the present to the past. These stories are the stories of our times. 

Three Parables: "Who Is My Neighbor?"

1996, Keshia Thomas protects man at KKK rally.
Photo by Mark Brunner.

Just then a lawyer stood up to test him. “Teacher,” he said, “what must I do to inherit eternal life?” He said to him, “What is written in the law? What do you read there?” He answered, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your strength, and with all your mind; and your neighbor as yourself.” And he said to him, “You have given the right answer; do this, and you will live.” But wanting to justify himself, the lawyer asked, “And who is my neighbor?” The teacher replied…(Luke 10:25–28 NRSV)

A child was coming from Venezuela to the U.S.-Mexico border, and fell into the hands of robbers who stripped her from her mother, beat her, and went away leaving her half dead. Now, by chance a Catholic Priest was going along the road; and when he saw her, he passed by on the other side. So likewise an Evangelical Pastor, when he came to the place and saw her, passed by on the other side. But, a Muslim while traveling came near her; and when he saw her, he was moved with pity. He went to her and bandaged her wounds, having poured oil and wine on them. Then he put her in his own car, brought her safely to a nearby Bed and Breakfast, and took care of her. The next day, he exchanged his money — Syrian Pounds for U.S. Dollars — and gave it to the owner of the B&B, and said, “Take care of her; and when I come back, I will repay whatever you spend.”

Which of these three was a neighbor to the one who fell into the hands of robbers?

 It happened again…

A Black trans woman was coming down from Pacific Heights to the Castro District in San Francisco, and fell into the hands of robbers who stripped her naked, beat her, and went away leaving her half dead. Now, by chance a Black preacher was going down that road; and when he saw her, he passed by on the other side. So likewise a feminist, when she came to the place and saw her, passed by on the other side. But, a poor man — an atheist, while traveling came near her; and when he saw her, he was moved with pity. He went to her and bandaged her wounds, having poured oil and wine on them. Then he put the woman on his own bike, brought her safely to a motel, and took care of her. The next day, he took out his wages and gave to the owner of the motel, and said, “Take care of her; and when I come back, I will repay whatever you spend.”

Which of these three was a neighbor to the one who fell into the hands of robbers?

And, in 1996…

A middle aged white man wearing a t-shirt with a confederate flag and an SS tattoo was coming along the path from Detroit to Ann Arbor, Michigan, to rally with the KKK. He fell into the hands of protesters who wanted to beat him (to teach him). Now, by chance, a white liberal from the city was going down that road; and when she saw them, she passed by on the other side. So likewise a white conservative from the suburbs, when she came to the place and saw him, passed by on the other side. But, an 18-year old Black woman who was there came near him; and when she saw him, she was moved with pity. She went to him, put herself in front of him to stop the beating, and covered his wounds. She brought him to safety saying to the crowd: “You can’t beat goodness into a person!”

The next day, she returned to him, to his children, and his children's children.

The story ends in the Gospel of Luke 10:36–37:

“Which of these three, do you think, was a neighbor to the one who fell into the hands of the robbers?” 

The expert in the law replied, “The one who showed mercy.”  

“Go and do likewise.”

The Power of Desire*

I look at an image of your face. 

You have eyes that cannot see (me) 

And ears that cannot hear (me). 

I have worshiped idols. 

But…your verboten voice, to me, 

Was like the morning dew, 

A sign of blessing to the world. 

Awakening inner vitality, only to disappear. 

The tenor of your voice, like a hint, 

Suggestive of love and beauty, 

Having done that work, 

Vanished from recognition. 

Say the Rabbis: 

“‘Yours is the dew of your youth’: 

Your youthful sins acted like dew-- 

They roused you to search for God.” 1

Your voice (& eyes & ears) awakened in me 

The power of desire. 

Through promise and frustration, 

They roused me to search for God. 

“I will be as dew to Israel,” says the Lord 2 

A hint, like perfume;

A word or two is enough; 

A whiff of perfume that lingers. 

I ask in mourning, dew on my cheeks: 

“Would you say I bear guilt all these years 

For having worshipped idols?” 3

God reassured Abraham: 

“Yours is the dew of your youth” (Ps. 110:3). 

Even as dew evaporates, 

So our sins may evaporate, 

As was for Abraham and his many sons, 

(O daughters!) 

Do not rejoice over me. 

Do not rejoice, my enemy! 4

Though I’ve fallen in darkness, 

I will rise again. 

Say the Rabbis: “If I had not fallen 

I should not have risen up; 

If I had not sat in darkness, 

God would not be my light.” 5

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1. 165, The Murmuring Deep
2. Hosea 14:6
3. Bereshit Rabbah 39:9
4. Micah 7:8
5. Yalkut Tehillim 628


* Title: The Power of Desire "The only thing to be done with sinful behavior is to stop it, to repent for it, and never to return to it. As for the power of desire that leads to the sin, it has significantly more positive possibilities" (Chabad.org).

Bull in a China Shop

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"Delicious"

I can’t cook a meal without messing it up.

I burn.
I overpour.
I leave out something essential.

I don’t always cook for myself. Sometimes, I create meals for others. My ambition for perfection and over-correcting for mistakes inevitably leaves me asking for forgiveness before we even sit down to eat. But, I can’t leave it at one apology. After each bite, I look for signs and feedback. Anxiously, I interpret every response:

Slow chewing.
A napkin to the lips.
A cough.

Would I overdo it if I asked what they really think? It’s a disaster!...Did I say that out loud? No, no, it’s fine, they say. Really, it’s delicious.

I can’t cook a meal without messing it up. But, we have to eat. And, sometimes, I create meals for others for the soul purpose...excuse me, I mean, the sole purpose of hearing that precious word, “Delicious.”

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"Beautiful"

Sometimes, when there is a very special or important event, I wear makeup. Wearing makeup is like painting the image in your mind onto a canvas. It’s an art form. To perfectly apply the various powders, pencils, and paints should result in an effortless looking beauty. You don’t want people to notice the makeup, but, rather, you want them to see the elegant you more clearly. You want your natural beauty to shine through. It is an art form of tenderness and care.

When I have a very important event I get nervous and I’m usually running late. First, I scrub my face clean. I sit down in front of the mirror. I tell myself, looking straight in the eye, perfection is the goal.

Inevitably, I overdo the powder. So, I put lotion over it and my face looks shiny, almost oily. I add more powder and it creates a thick skin-colored layered goo on my face. I wipe it hard. My skin becomes blotchy and raw. Next, the blush, intended to give me a youthful glow and ruddy cheeked vibrance, sticks to the caked powder and ends up as a dark smear of rose too high on my cheekbones. Often, my eyeshadow turns into a bruised look, and the eyeliner, so flawlessly drawn on one eye, is smeared and uneven on the other. I don’t even try the lipliner. I assume you can’t go wrong with lipgloss. You can.

I’m usually running late, so I give up and go. Would it be socially awkward to ask people to forgive the state of your face at a special event? I make up for my failures in the art form of beauty application by being as kind and agreeable as I can. I’m always hoping people will look past my failures with cover-up and concealer. I try to hide, afraid they will see my nakedness. At these special events, I find myself listening, straining my ears in hopes of hearing someone, anyone, say, “Beautiful.”

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Broken Glass Everywhere

I broke my friend’s mother’s inherited vase. It was a beautiful blue porcelain painted with yellow flowers. Daffodils, my favorite. At the time, I was a little out of my mind. Yes, I had had a few glasses of wine. But, I was also feeling restless, needy, and wanting so badly to create a good impression.

We were dancing in the living room. It was late. His mother was out of town. He asked if he could kiss me. This startled me because we were good friends. I stumbled backwards and crashed into his mother’s curio cabinet. A precious vase, given to her by his late grandmother, suddenly crashed to the floor.

Frantically, I knelt down to clean it up. I used my hands and cut myself. The blood stained the cream colored carpet. I grabbed the first thing I could find to wash the stain and ended up rubbing the blood with beer. He told me that he would take care of it.

"You should go home," he said.

I left in a daze. I couldn’t get the vase out of my mind. Surely, there was some way I could fix it. Years went by. He never called. I was embarrassed. I couldn’t stop thinking about that broken vase and those shattered pieces of porcelain--yellow narcissus flowers painted over a wash of baby blue.

One day, I drove past his mother’s house again. I remembered his bedroom window. I thought maybe if I used these small pebbles I could throw them at his window to get his attention. If he would only turn back those heavy curtains and open his window, I could tell him I was sorry.

I stood there in the middle of the day, with the sun shining down. I wondered what he would think if he knew I was here, at his mother’s house again,

...and I just broke the second story bedroom window.

Black Trans Woman is GOD

Your feminine presence in the room (Shekhinah)
Hovers over the mind of each soul
Accompanied by our fears,
Also by my reverence and awe.

For the many, you are a mythical creature
Who, in the contradiction of
Your living, breathing presence,
The mob seeks to kill.

You wear a garment of great earthly beauty.
We claim to have your hidden places,
Your covered parts, Your Mystery,
Within our callused hands.

Like a verse of holy scripture used as a knife,
We cut your wholeness into pieces.

We consume the male and female broken like bread,
Along with your blood in this cup.

Blood is poured out for the many
For the forgiveness of sins. 
--ENOUGH!--
[El Shaddai] is our G-d.
[El Shaddai] is one.

A Holy Name: “G-d Almighty,”
“Big Breasted One.” “All Sufficient One.”
Assigned male at birth
In the beginning with the word.

You dwell in thick darkness, in your skin
Arafel, dark cloud, of the Hebrew sort, 1 Kings 8.
Your name, to me, means “innocent” or “lamb”
And when I touched your hand, it was soft.

Lamb, You are Sufficient.
You are God-With-Us.
The Incarnation.
The Black Trans Woman is God

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[Note: This poem was inspired by an activist I met some years ago. I’m also taking a Hebrew class learning letters, the root meaning of words, and their gendered forms. The Shekhinah (the presence of God in the world) and El Shaddai are Hebrew words for God in the feminine form.]